So Her Actions Say Yes

By Adom Canaccord

So you have a girl and you have done some things right and you've got her going for you. You studied body language, word patterns, behavior patterns and practiced them enough to have a beneficial effect when used on this girl. Now you have this girl and she is interested in you, she likes you, but you have not yet established an agreement that you are going to be together. Before you do that, the girl will throw out some despairing curve balls. Girls do this, especially in the last minutes when they give in. It might just be the final struggle before she is subdued. They do not always do this, but if there was hesitation or signs of uncertainty on your part, or if you have needlessly rejected the girl before, this is the result.

She will say that she has a boyfriend, that she is not interested, that she's not looking for a boyfriend etc. whatever. The key her is to not to argue with her or respond in any way. Let this one slip, just nod your head and stay silent until she vents out. Wait until she is done and then continue with the next subject, talk about her new bracelet or whatever. The key here is to watch her body language, if it's open, and you can tell she wants you, don't be distracted by the words.

What is going on here is that somewhere in the initiation you have done something wrong. You took to long to approach her when she was giving you a signal. You might have been too shy and made her feel rejected by not going along with some approaches from her. You might have been jealous and made her feel like you were interested in someone else. Whatever it is these issue will have to resolve when she is becoming ready to give it to you.

If you were flirting with some other girl, she will be saying that she's seeing someone else. If you have played hard to get and rejected her before, she will say that she is not interested. If you have been hesitant in approaching her at some point, she will be acting hesitant and unsure of wanting to be with you. The point is that it's hard to remember all of the things that you have done, or it might have been some other guy who put those insecurities in her. How ever they got there, they will have to come out if you want to get physical with this girl.

The good news is that there is a very easy way to neutralize those struggling last minute resistance words by being neutral. If you turn away from her, she will confirm that you are not interested. If you respond to her and try to reason out with her, she will know that you have been thinking about it and it's still on your mind. However you can settle all of her concerns by just not responding in any particular way. The best way is as if you have forgot about all those things and just nod your head as if she a five year old child rumbling on when it doesn't know what it's talking about. Just relax.

She will keep throwing out those issues until the last of them is neutralized. Pay attention to her body language. If it's open and her resistance is merely a reflection of something you have done to her. Chill out, find something to talk about for when she's done and before you know it you'll be getting physical with her in no time.

About the Author:
SeductionReport.com is a men's online magazine offering the best advice on dating, secrets of love, relationships and attraction. Go to http://www.seductionreport.com

First Date Tips

By Dave Thomas

When it comes to your first date, you want everything to go smoothly and according to plan. Here are some top tips to make sure you both have a great time!

Tip 1: You could do the typical thing, and have a meal in a restaurant for your first date. However, if you do that, and later you find out that can't stand your date, you will have to wait until the end of the meal before you can make a graceful departure, and that may be a couple of hours away! Besides which, it can be expensive, and remember that you have to tip! Instead, consider choosing a coffee date at a Starbucks or similar coffee cafe. It won't last long, and if you find you don't get on with your date, it won't be long before you can find the door.

Tip 2: Why not do something more adventurous on a first date? A fun activity like ten-pin bowling or a visit to a theme park is far more likely to be enjoyed by both of you than a cup of coffee, and even if you don't like each other, you should enjoy the activity! Do try to look for something that you'll both enjoy, though. Ice skating may be fine if you're both keen to do it, and have about the same level of skill; otherwise, give it a miss.

Tip 3: If you must do the typical dinner-date for your first date, at least try not to make it somewhere really expensive, where you'll be frowned at by snooty waiters for any little slip that you make. It should be obvious that you should also not go for a meal at a cheap fast-food restaurant! Try to go for somewhere cosy and comfortable. You only need somewhere that's priced at around the £10/US$20 per head mark. You could even go to a pub; there are plenty of inns that have a very cosy, intimate atmosphere, and you can get some nice, cheap meals at these places for about half the price of a restaurant meal.

Tip 4: Your choice of clothing for your first date should be in-keeping with the activity you intend to do. Within the bounds of being appropriate, try to dress reasonably smartly, and be well-groomed and washed. Clothing is more important for men; affluent dress will certainly impress. For women, make-up is more important; men don't know a great deal about clothes, especially ladies' clothes, and as long as what you wear looks good superficially, that is all you need to worry about, except of course, don't dress too provocatively unless you're looking for action.

Tip 5: Don't do something that you are not both comfortable doing! If you do something just to please him/her on your first date, you won't enjoy it. This will come across in your body language, if nothing else. You'll be very bored!

Tip 6: Do something that will involve the two of you talking, at least for some of the time. A visit to the cinema is no good at all; a theatre visit could work out, because there's an intermission. For a first date, you want to get to know them! How are you going to do that, if you don't do any talking?

David Thomas is a web publisher with a wide range of interests, including psychology and dating. He runs a web site that gives free flirting tips, and you can even add your own comments to the articles. It's a great place to learn!

Dating Dos and Don'ts

By Leona Hamel

• Do take care of your appearance because first impressions last. So, take the time to trim that moustache; wash your hair; and brush your teeth. And do dress for the occasion. Don’t wear high-heeled pumps if you’re going to a ball game, and jeans if you’re going to a fancy restaurant.
• Don’t be late; otherwise, you may be seen as unreliable or disrespectful. Do give your date a quick call or leave a message at the place you are planning to meet if you know you’re going to be late.
• Do be realistic. After all, this is your first date and the two of you are getting to know each other. Don’t have any high expectations. Relax and enjoy yourself.
• Don’t go thinking about what happened at the office today, tomorrow’s appointment, or whether the children are putting up a fuss with the babysitter. Do be in the moment.
• Do turn your cell phone off or at least put it on vibrate alert. Don’t interrupt your date to take call after call unless you’re looking to “turn off” your date.
• Don’t monopolize the conversation. Do listen to your date and show interest in what your date is saying by asking some questions. This is an excellent opportunity for the two of you to learn if you share any similar interests, values, and goals.
• Do keep to the present. The past is in the past and, surprisingly, the future is unknown. Don’t go talking, whining or complaining about your previous relationships.
• Don’t be a lump on the log and take things so seriously. Do show a sense of humor and let your personality shine through.
• Do pay attention to your body language. Be positive and show confidence. Make eye contact. Don’t cross your arms. Don’t fidget. Don’t forget to smile. Take a deep breath and have fun. You both deserve it.
• Don’t waste your date’s time by pretending to be someone you are not. Do be yourself. After all, is this not what you would want from your date?
Do practice good manners. For men, this may mean offering to pay, opening doors, and pulling out a chair. We women can offer to pay too. Don’t forget your table manners as well.
• Don’t say you’ll call if you know you won’t. Do be honest, but have some compassion. A simple “I don’t find that we’re as compatible as I thought,” should be enough.” If on the other hand, you’re interested, do let your date know—even if it means risking rejection. And if the two of you really hit it off, do be sure to let the other know you had a good time and don’t hesitate to call or send a surprise e-mail a few days later to share your sentiments again.

Leona Hamel is a Romance Agent, speaker, coach and author of The ABC’s of Tease and Please - A Romance Handbook, as well as a contributing author to A First Serving of Milk and Cookies for Success. Passionate about human connection, Leona works with men and women who want to explore their romantic creativity and experience more passion, fun and success in their life. Visit http://www.romanceunlimited.com for new articles, tips and trivia each month. Don't forget to sign up for LouLou's Love Lesson!

Dating Success Strategies: 10 Dating Lessons To Spice Up Your Social Life

by April Masini

If you are ready to start winning in the dating world, follow this simple strategy for success:

Lesson 1: First Impressions
They are immediate, long lasting, and usually permanent. Regardless of how great you are, and no matter how sweet you can be once someone gets to know you, the reality is, your dating success will be based almost entirely upon the other person's initial sense of who and what you are.

Lesson 2: If you want the part, look the part
Statistics show that how we appear speaks more about us, and is more important, than what we say verbally.

Lesson 3: Act the part
It is a fact that in our personal affairs, as in all our business dealings, we sell ourselves first. Poor attitude, image, and behavior will adversely affect your dating success, just as it will negatively affect your success in business.

Lesson 4: Be the part
The initial impression you make on a prospective date predicts whether she (or he) will take the time to get to know you. Dating, as well as business, is all about sales. You must think of yourself as a product and the person you want to date as the buyer.

Lesson 5: Dating is about sales and sales is a numbers game
If you want to multiply your success immediately in dating (or just about anything else),learn, understand, and embrace the concept behind "the numbers game." Accept and follow these tenets:
1. You are a product
2. You are the product's salesperson, its packager, and its advertiser.
3. The person you're trying to attract is your customer. They make their buying decisions based upon presentation, packaging, and advertising.
4. The world's best salespeople don't have a 100 percent sales rate, a 75 percent rate, a 50 percent or even a 25 percent rate. The world's best salespeople are lucky to maintain a 10 percent sales rate and count themselves lucky if one out of every ten "pitches" results in a sale.

Lesson 6: Confidence = success
The number one quality both men and women seek in a date or a mate is confidence. Confidence is also the key attribute that all professional salesmen must possess in order to be successful. People do not buy products or services from someone who has no confidence in themselves or the products they represent.

Lesson 7: Establish a goal
A confident person is one with a plan and a goal. What's yours?

Lesson 8: Know your target market and give them what they want
Understand to whom you are trying to sell yourself and what they are interested in buying.

Lesson 9: Analyze the competition and do things better than they do
Just as you would study a competitor in business or a rival sports team, study your dating competition if you want to win!

Lesson 10: Take action and follow through
Deal with your fear of rejection. Stop investing your energy and self-worth in outcomes. Instead of thinking of 'misses' as 'failures,' think of them as 'practice shots'. Dating is a process. Stop placing so much importance on what the person you are interested in thinks of you. After all, you don't know if you would even like them once you get to know them, do you?
Set small goals and accomplish them, one by one. Get passionate about your goals and your life. Enthusiasm is contagious, if you are excited about your life, people will be excited about being with you.
Dress for success. Always put your best foot forward And don't forget to perfect your sales pitch. If you keep doing the same thing, you will keep getting the same result.

Lesson 11: Live as if there may be no tomorrow
Realize there are no guarantees, no dress rehearsals, and (usually) no second chances. Make each day "your day," one in which you did all that you could do.

About the Author
Nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby," by the media, April Masini is the publisher of the edgy, provocative dating and relationship online magazine AskApril.com. April writes what Dear Abby will never print, and what your shrink doesn't have the guts to tell you! Visit www.askapril.com for more dating success information.