Unusual First Date Options - Step Out of the Box

By Addie Scott

Okay, so you’ve been emailing each other for awhile, maybe you’re text messaging and perhaps you’ve talked on the phone. You feel a certain chemistry and you want to move on to the next step, the FIRST DATE. You can’t decide where to go or what to do. The possibilities for that first date are endless. I’d like to make a suggestion; skip the whole dinner and a movie thing. Try something different. Step out of your comfort zone; out of the box. Remember when you were little and it was okay to color outside of the lines? Try it. It can open up a whole new world. Forget about the standard dinner and movie. Dinner’s nice, but why spend two hours in a theater watching someone else when you can be doing something fun that will help you get to know one another?

Put on your thinking cap and get creative. If you’re not the creative type, ask for help from your family and friends. Not only will something different be fun, but you’ll stand out in the crowd. Your date will remember the fact that you gave some thought to where you were going and what you were going to do. Your first date can easily be a success. There will be plenty of time later on, if you continue to see each other, for dinner and a movie.

Personally, I like bowling. You might be laughing right now, or thinking "no way", but I can tell you that it can be a lot of laughs. Bowling is a gas, and it's a great idea for a first date! It’s also nice that you are surrounded by other people, making your date feel safe. In addition, the fun and laughter around you can be contagious. If neither of you have ever bowled, it can be a learning experience for both of you, and no one will be at an unfair advantage. If one of you has bowled before, it can be an opportunity to be a teacher. On the other hand, if both of you have bowled, you can just relax and enjoy yourself. Throw a little alcohol into the mix (for it is one sport that actually invites you to imbibe) and just have fun. You might each bring a friend, which will also alleviate some of that "first date" stress.

If you’re not into bowling, a picnic can be nice. Now, I understand that picnics usually have a romantic stigma attached to them, but you can change that. Rather than finding a nice little secluded spot in the middle of nowhere, plop yourself down in the middle of a populated park somewhere. Entertain yourselves by people watching. You can make an impression, if you put some thought into it. Think about the menu and the accoutrements. If you’re not so swift in the kitchen, ask someone who is. Try a local deli or gourmet store. Many of them will be only too happy to put the whole thing together for you. Pick a menu and accessories that will make a statement. Forget the styrofoam cups and potato chips. Up the ante a little bit. A bottle of wine or champagne is a nice touch, but don’t forget the corkscrew and the glasses. There’s nothing worse than finding yourself unprepared when you’re trying to make a good first impression. Make a list and check it twice. Remember something to sit on, and make sure it’s nice, clean and without holes or stains. Remember napkins; cloth is nice. Be sure to bring such things as salt and pepper, and ice cold bottled water is always good. Run through your plans with a fine toothed comb and get rid of any snags.

Where you are and the time of year can help dictate where you go and what you do. If the weather is nice you could take a nice long walk or hike, and stop somewhere along the way for something cold to drink. You could go to the beach, walk along the boardwalk and stop for lunch overlooking the ocean. Roller blading or bicycling is always an option, as is a trip to a local winery or a farmer’s market. If it is winter or the weather is chilly, your options might be a bit different. Instead of roller blading, you could try ice skating. If you’ve never skated and you go to a public skating rink, you can find comfort in the fact that you won’t be the only ones falling down. You will be surrounded by others doing the same. If there’s snow around, you could go somewhere nice for lunch where there is a wonderful view. The possibilities, like I said, are endless.

If you plan ahead of time, you can ask others for dating ideas. Your Aunt Mary of Uncle Bob might know just the spot. You can go to your local Chamber of Commerce or Visitors Center for information. Sometimes we have events in our own town that we know nothing about. When the weather is warm, many towns and cities have outdoor concerts or festivals of some kind. There might be someplace historical you’ve never been. Museums and art galleries are good too.

So, if you want to have a successful first date, give it some thought. Don’t be afraid of the unknown. Instead, embrace it. Enlist the help of family, friends and co-workers. Peruse your local Sunday paper or Weekly. Dare to be different. If the date ends up being a bust, at least you’ve tried something new or out of the ordinary. Good luck and happy dating!

Addie Scott is also the author and illustrator of a soon to be published children's book, and at present, is working on an how-to internet business ebook. You can pick up more great dating tips at http://www.flirtdirt.com

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Attention Men: What Never To Say To A Woman

by Jessica Kihara

Guys, we ladies know that you can be pretty clueless. Have you ever said something "innocent" that got your woman really mad? There are just some things a woman does not want to hear. If you want to keep peace in your relationship, take my advice and don't ever say this to your girlfriend/wife:

Mistake #1: "Your best friend is hot." She'll end up feeling threatened that you're attracted to someone so close to her. It cause tension anytime the three of you get together. If you think her friend, sister, cousin, etc. is a knock-out - just keep it to yourself.

Mistake #2: "Maybe You should go on a diet." Women are insecure enough about their bodies as it is. Seeing models and actresses on TV and in magazines makes many women feel like they're not good enough. You should never let her know that you notice her flaws, because she's probably already obsessing over them.

Mistake #3: "I don't ever want to get married." Most women are interested in long-term relationships. Plus, they love weddings. Telling her that you NEVER want to get married will definitely cause conflict in your relationship. Saying this to a woman may end your reltionship or lead to a psycho possessive girlfriend.

Mistake #4: "My ex used to do it different." Your new honey does NOT want to be compared to your ex. Do not remind her that you ever had sexual & romantic feelings for someone else. You might end up making her jealous. The exception is when you are making a comparison extremely favorable to your new girlfriend. However, you have to be careful - bringing up past lovers too often for no reason will make her think that your ex is still on your mind.

Mistake #5: "Maybe I should go without you." If you're going somewhere, and your significant other wants to come, just let her! You know that she might not enjoy herself, but denying her will make her suspicious. Besides, isn't it fun spending quality time together?

Mistake #6: "That fart you made was killer!" If you're both really close and comfortable with each other, this might be okay. However, when she lets one slip by accident and starts blushing, DO NOT laugh at her. It's an extremely embarassing situation and she doesn't need you to notice that she has "odors."

Mistake #7: "Why do you always want to talk?" I'll tell you the answer now so that you never ask her this. The reason females always want to talk, is because that's what they're good at doing. They've been doing it for years and that's what they're used to. Your silence can mean a lot of different things to a woman, some bad - so open up and let her know what's really on your mind. If you don't want to talk, say that you don't want to talk right now, but would be happy to in 1/2 hour. Anything else will make you look like an insensitive jerk.

Keep your woman happy and don't utter any of these offensive remarks. Remember that saying the wrong thing could mean that you end up sleeping on the couch tonight!

Jessica Kihara

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How to Talk to a Woman

by Caterina Christakos

Taking a girl out on a date already says a lot. But this whole business is not just about seducing someone. You must gain the confidence and trust of the person sitting at the other end of the table. More than that, you must make her feel good in your presence and even want more. How to do this? Simple! When you're not flirting with her just let her take control for a while.
Always keep in mind that women's favorite subject is themselves. This little "bug" in their software gives men a big advantage in a conversation and that is curiosity. Yet, only few use it because of the misconceptions surrounding curiosity in general. Curiosity may have killed the cat, but when a conversation between a man and a woman is concerned, I don't think it ever hurt anyone. What I'm trying to say is that if she says something that makes you curious... just ask her! This will tell her that you are interested in her person. Nevertheless, watch out for those not so discreet questions that could turn you into a cat and get you killed.
Another thing most men forget is that women, even the prettiest, disregard themselves. If you discovered something about her that you really like make sure she can feel your admiration. This rule applies to anything from the color of her eyes to the way she back-parked her car for example. Still, try to use original ways to make compliments and remember that you'll receive the most "points" for cherishing her intelligence.
Always listen to her when she talks! Sounds too obvious? Maybe, but the key thing is that it counts less if you've been really listening to her as long as she thinks you weren't. Therefore you can use several tricks like saying confirmation phrases ("I see", "yes" etc.) showing that you're following her. Just don’t do it so much that she mistakes you for her shrink. Re-telling what she just said is another useful skill as long as you don't abuse it. You simply rephrase what she said and she'll know you got the point. Nevertheless it can be very annoying if you overuse it.
And, as I mentioned earlier, when she makes you curious about something just ask her! This proves you were listening in the first place. The same happens when you make a compliment based on something she just said.
But curiosity can also be used whenever you run out of topics in a conversation. Every woman is curious by nature so all you have to do is to stir her curiosity and forget all about you running out of interesting subjects or her getting bored.
Caterina Christakos is a published author and dating coach. Learn more of what to do and what not to do with women. Go to: http://www.powerdatingexplosion.com/
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Dating Ideas – The All Day Date

By Robert Crowell

Surprise the love of your life with an all-day date! This is for those really special times in your life like a significant anniversary, a special birthday, or just to let her know how much you love her. This date takes a bit more planning than most, but will be a day that she remembers for the rest of her life.

Have a theme and oddly enough, leave early in the morning on the day of the date. Plan on being back around 5:00. Leave your first note where she will find it. This note should say something like, “This is going to be a very special day. I want you to start by taking a nice long warm shower. Relax and enjoy yourself."

Leave the next note near the shower, telling her to open it after her bath. It could say something like, “Go to the laundry room and find your first gift of the day!" After her nice long shower, she will go and find the first gift, maybe a stuffed animal. Underneath it or between the paws there should be the next card that tells her to, “Go to the mall and spend the $50 on something you have been wanting to get yourself! Be back by 1:00.”

Your next clue could say, “Just relax and read a book or watch a movie”. As the next surprise, have flowers delivered at 2:00. Have two cards. One should say, “Open Now” and should tell her how much you love her and that you hope she is enjoying her day. The second should say, “Open at 4:00”. This will continue to build the suspense.

So, it's 4:00 and she's ready for her next clue. Tell her to get dressed for an evening at a nice restaurant and give her enough information to know what to wear. You can ruin the whole day by not providing enough information so that she knows how to prepare.

Come home about 5:00 and see how she is coming along. If she has enjoyed the day, which she should have by now, she should be telling you how much fun she is having and how she can't wait to see what is coming next.

Have a limousine come and pick you up to take you to the restaurant. This will really surprise her and it will make all of her friends jealous.

If the restaurant takes reservations, make them in advance. If you know the restaurant well, visit them ahead of time. Drop off a single rose in a small vase during the day and ask the maître d' to present it to her when she comes in the door with you. Your date will continue to be surprised in a very nice way as the evening goes on.

Next, take your girl to the nicest hotel in town, again delivered by limo! This hotel part is where the extra planning needs to take place. The next part is something that few guys will ever do and something that she will remember forever! Pack a small suitcase or duffel bag and deliver it to the hotel a day or two in advance with casual clothes and toiletries. No woman wants to go home the next morning wearing the dress-up clothes that she wore the night before! She will be much more relaxed and relaxation leads to good romantic feelings!

Arrange for breakfast in bed and have the limo pick you up and drive you home!

The daylong date takes some work, but is really a lot of fun. It includes the day-long anticipation of things to come, notes, secrets, and surprises lasting all the way up until the following morning! It doesn't get much better than that. This is the date that she will always remember, and so will you!

Robert Crowell specializes in presenting information on dating ideas, gift-giving and romancing the girl of your dreams. Check out his website at http: http://www.romantic-gentleman.com for more tips including Secrets That Women Want You to Know.

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